Here are some of the ways I’ll make sure you’re safe.
I will keep our encounters and your personal information and identity completely discreet and confidential.
When we are apart, I will not contact you, unless you have specifically requested that I do so, and only in the manner that you wish. I can offer you tips on how to keep our communications private.
I’m hygienic and healthy. I always carry and use condoms. If you have allergies to latex please let me know. I practice safe sex protocols. I get comprehensively tested every three months for sexually transmitted infections at a clinic that specializes in this area. I have printed results of these tests if you would like to see them.
While I’ve never had a condom failure, in the unlikely event it did happen, you wouldn’t have to worry about pregnancy. I’ve had a vasectomy.
During our time together you can expect me to be a proper gentleman – respectful, consensual and attentive to your needs. This also includes your emotional safety. I will always be kind, non-judgmental and see the best in you.
My studio is located in a safe and beautiful neighbourhood in downtown Vancouver, the West End.
I don’t drink, smoke or use substances.
Safety is a must. Yours is always my highest priority.
Love is a delicious emotion and human experience to relish. Love is not a problem. The problem is all the extra meanings we pile on top of it.
Here are some common ones. If I love you I own and control you. If we are in love we must merge every aspect of our lives. If you love me you must take care of my every need. Loves means getting married, living together and not loving anyone else.
Separated from all this heavy baggage, love flourishes and takes many forms like friendship, passion, playfulness, acceptance, adventure and healing. All these forms are possible, when we challenge our old false notions about love.
That being said, any love we share will stay safely contained within our agreements of time, place and monetary exchange. These clear boundaries ensure that our relationship won’t infringe on other parts of your life.
I look forward to loving you!
For example, seeing me could be emotional life support for you, giving you the strength to endure a cold marriage for the sake of your family and sanity.
Or perhaps you really love your husband, but he can’t meet your sexual needs, or you’re no longer attracted to him. If neither risking your relationship, nor living a life without sensual passion is acceptable to you, seeing an escort is a wonderful alternative.
In another possible scenario, our professional arrangement could help you heal old wounds which eventually leads to richer intimacy within your marriage.
Is any of that cheating?
Ultimately this question goes beyond simple morality and can’t be easily answered – only lived. Try me and see how you feel. I’m always open to discuss your feelings about seeing me. I’ll support you in whatever choices you make.
This includes: Protection of your privacy. Discretion. Prompt and clear communication. Showing up on time. Appropriate attire for social occasions. Being sober. Cleanliness and good grooming. Respect for your desires and wishes. Attentiveness. Kindness. Sensual touch that is pleasurable. A friendly and caring attitude. Safe sex protocols. Seeing the best in you. And clearly communicating my own needs while taking care of yours.
Don’t worry about taking care of me. I’m in charge of that.
Connect with your pleasure and desire. Ask for what you want and need, as clearly and often as you can. If this is a challenge for you, I can coach you.
Observe common courtesies like showing up on time for our date and having the arranged fee with you.
That about covers it.